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Weeping Like A Small Child Did Not Get My Ex Wife Back - Psychological Voodoo Did
Wednesday, September 02nd, 2009 • admin

When my ex wife left me I was a wreck. It was such a shock that I could barely function.

I was crying like a baby for no reason. I was having a hard time at work.

I constantly tried to call and text her but it seems all I was doing was driving the wedge between us even deeper.

In hindsight this was the wrong thing to do. I should have been doing the opposite of what I was doing.

I got hold of a step by step system that claimed it would get my wife back. To say I was sceptical was an understatement.

I decided to give the system a go, I had little to lose here. I took it’s advice and ceased all contact with my ex.

I then did as it suggested and took some time to get my head right. This worked great for me as I started feeling more positive almost straight away.

The system had an eye opening bonus section about psychological mind games. We rarely know but we are psychologically manipulated all the time.

This is the kind of stuff I like. Although to be honest I was unaware of how poweful these psychological tactics are.

We are manipulated by these tricks on a daily basis. Mostly advertising but also our government is quite expert with these tricks.

Over the years the government has manipulated us small step by small step into a position where they want us.

It still goes on and they will eventually put us in a position where we happily give them most of our wages in tax.

The psychological steps in the system worked on a similar line. Get my ex back by getting her to agree to small things and moving up to slightly bigger things all the time.

We started with a little step of her just agreeing to meet me. After this we move up slightly to having coffee together.

The next step involves having lunch together a few times to let her get into a comfort zone.

We move on to a meal out maybe in a restaurant and onto a proper night out. Then to get her to stay over after the night out.

The next and last step is getting her to move back in permanently. It’s not a big step from staying over regularly to moving back in. Total time taken was about 6 weeks.

If this is something you think you’d like to try to get your ex back then you should give it a go. It works and it will continue to work. Get a better review at my site.

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Should I Use Psychological Tricks To Get My Wife Back
Monday, August 24th, 2009 • admin

The article title is a question you may well be asking yourself. Would it be ok and ethical to get my wife back with psychological tricks? In my opinion it’s ok.

I’m sure there’s lots of talk about how devious it is to use psychological tricks but the fact remains we use these and other tricks every day.

Most days we will use some form of psychology or psychological mind games.

We may use reverse psychological tricks on our work mates or friends. We may even use them on our kids when they are being particularly stubborn.

We seldom know we are doing this. As it’s part of our lives to coerce people into doing something with some magic words.

Imagine going out for a run but your friend just isn’t up for it. You quietly let them know it’s fine if they don’t feel physically up to the task. Before you know it their pride takes over and they are bursting to get going.

You used a psychological trick there to get your friend to take the action you wanted. Psychological tricks at work. Looking at it like this it seems ok to use, certainly not sneaky.

You can put these tricks in to play to get your ex back just as easy. When I was trying to get my wife back I used a curiosity trick.

I intended to leave her a phone message with a few sentences in that she just had to be curious about. She certainly was and she got back to me within a day or two.

You may want to try putting a song she really loves on in the background while she’s on the phone. This connects the song and you in her mind and she starts to see you favourably again.

How about cooking something you know she loves next time she visits. She may only be visiting to pick up her stuff but if she smells her favorite food the good memories come flooding back.

There’s a whole host of tricks like these you can add to your plan to get your wife back. But the fact remains you got to have a solid plan if you want the right result.

If you haven’t got a plan of action you are destined to fail as these tricks won’t cut it on their own. You should get a plan of action like the one I used when I needed to get my wife back.

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Get Ex Back Using Power Words
Thursday, August 20th, 2009 • admin

To get your ex back, there is no one solution that will work for everyone.  Each break up happens for a different main reason.  The three main reasons are that you wronged your partner, or they wronged you, or there was relationship drift and they just aren’t that into you anymore.  You can learn more about how to get your ex back here.

What you need to do first if you want to get your ex back is to figure out which of those three reasons caused your break up.  That’s because there is a different strategy to use to get your ex back in each case.

But there are some real power phrases you can use that will often work regardless of why you broke up.  These power words are often effective at touching your ex’s heart.  Here’s one very powerful phrase

“Losing you from my life is the biggest mistake I’ve ever made…”  Do you see how these words might possibly reach in and touch your ex’s heart?

Think about it.  Maybe you wronged your mate.  Maybe you cheated on them or didn’t pay them enough attention or whatever.  They gave you the boot.  Now you’ve been apart for a week or so.  Absence makes the heart grow fonder and you want them back.  You can learn more resolving relationship conflict specifics here.

Your ex’s heart may be growing a bit fonder with absence as well.  They may have moments of regret over not having you in their life.  If you then tell them that losing you was a huge mistake, it can be very powerful.  You can at least see what happens.

You’ve got to really mean it when you say it.  You can’t say it as a trick or as a manipulation to get them to feel sorry for you.  And, you can only use it once to get your ex back.  If they take you back you’ve got to show them that you’ve learned from your past and you’ve got to treat them right.

Now, there are other parts in an effective Immediate Reconnect Strategy.  You will likely need more than just this phrase.  But if you feel it’s really true for you, say it to your ex.  It may touch their heart enough to make them consider giving you a second chance!  You can get a complete system for how to get your ex back here.

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Making Up With Your Exgirlfriend
Wednesday, July 29th, 2009 • admin

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They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder.  If your girlfriend is now your ex, you probably understand the truth of that statement.  If you could only get a second chance, you’d show her how much you love her.  You can learn more about getting your love back here.

How do you go about getting your ex girlfriend back?  It depends on why you broke up.  Understand that and you’ll know which approach to use.

The first reason for breaking up is that you wronged your ex.  You either cheated on her or you were too controlling or too jealous or too demanding and she dumped you.  At some point it got to be too much and she told you to take a hike.

Another main reason relationships end is that she isn’t that into you anymore.  She was into you at first, but then maybe she didn’t feel appreciated or got bored or felt that you weren’t the guy she wanted to spend the future with.  “Relationship Drift” happened and she lost interest.

So if you understand why she left you, then you’ll know which approach to use to get her back.  Let’s say you cheated on your ex girlfriend.  You wronged her.  Then the approach to use is to make a Smart Apology.  This is a particular kind of apology that is emotionally powerful and can begin to repair the damage you caused by wronging her.  You can learn more about getting back together in 3 simple steps specifics here.

A smart apology has several steps to it.  But the thing is you don’t even say you’re sorry til the third or fourth step.  First, you fess up to what you did.  You don’t try to avoid blame, you take responsibility.  Then you let her vent, and get things off her chest.  You just listen and don’t try to argue.

If you can do those two things before you apologize, you are halfway home to restoring her trust and making her feel heard and understood.  Too many guys just keep saying they are sorry til they are blue in the face and it makes no difference.   A Smart Apology will impact your ex girlfriend emotionally.

Now, if the problem the relationship ended was because she isn’t that into you anymore, you need an entirely different approach, obviously.  You can find out more about that from a free course in the link below.  There is much more to getting your ex girlfriend back, but just this is a good way to begin.  Get your free course on getting your ex back here.

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Making Up After You’ve Made A Mistake
Wednesday, June 17th, 2009 • admin

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Do you want to get your ex back even though you “wronged” them?  Perhaps you were too controlling or abusive or you committed infidelity.  Your ex drew a line, closed off their heart to you, and left the relationship.  You can learn more about Get Ex Back here.

Now you’ve learned a lesson or two.  You are sorry for what you’ve done.  You want them back.  The good news is that you can recover from the damage you caused the relationship and win them back, if you follow an emotionally powerful proven plan.  Plus, you don’t need to wait 30 days or longer to get your ex back, you can often repair the damage in hours. 

The first step to getting your ex back begins with owning up inside yourself to the fact that you wronged them.  You, yourself, by your actions, caused your mate enough emotional pain that they gave up on the whole possibility of your relationship.  You hurt them by what you did in such a way that they felt the only thing to do emotionally was to hit the eject button on you.

This first step is important because you know how we human beings are.  We like to place the blame for bad things outside ourselves.  We blame our ex or we blame the drinking or the stress or the loneliness for what we did.  We don’t want to accept responsibility for our bad behaviors.  You can get a complete system for resolving relationship conflict here.

Once you’ve acknowledged to yourself what you did, the next step is to admit it to your mate.  You say in your own way “I wronged you.”  You don’t try to explain or defend or blame anything else.  You man or woman up and admit that you did them wrong.

Look, when you get hurt by someone, it is natural to want to know that the person understand what they did wrong.  You don’t want to hear a bunch of excuses and rationalizations.  When you’ve wronged your mate, they often can’t begin to forgive until they hear that you are at least taking responsibility for your poor behaviors.

The normal mistake we make when we wrong our mate is to keep saying I’m sorry til we’re blue in the face.  A better approach is to start this way, by owning up to what you did and taking responsibility for it.  This is emotionally powerful for your ex to hear.

So before you get to actually apologizing, you should do certain things first.  The above two steps are a good place to start.  Acknowledging to yourself and then to your ex what you did wrong is a nice beginning to repairing the damage.  Go here for a free course on Love And Intimacy Help.

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Get Ex Back By Asking Wisely
Saturday, May 30th, 2009 • admin

Your ex dumped you and you want them back.  So you’ve called and made a powerful apology about what you did wrong.  Now what do you say to get them to give you another chance? You can learn more about bad relationship advice here.

A good first thing to realize is that each break up is different.  You can’t make a blanket rule about what to say or do.  You have to feel it out with your ex.

Let’s say that you wronged your mate and were too controlling and jealous.  You have apologized powerfully to them and they have at least listened to your apology.  They seem to be open to you again.  Now what?  If you are too pushy they will think you haven’t really changed, won’t they?

So you ask for a second chance.  You say something natural.  “Will you give me a second chance?”  That is simple and normal.  Where the skill comes in is realizing the ball is in their court now.  Let them have the ball and take the time they need to consider your request.

Understand that asking them to give you a second chance is a very big deal.  They left you because of some strong negative feelings over whatever happened.  This is an important issue.  (Go here for a complete course on How To Get Love Relationship Advice)

Your ex has to take the time to feel the situation through.  Weigh the pros and cons.  They don’t want to make a mistake and take you back only to start feeling bad again.

The wise thing to do is to let them have control of the reconnect.  Ask them to give you a second chance and feel the situation out.  If they seem unsure and seem to need time to think about it, don’t be pushy.  Ask if you can check in with them tomorrow.  If they seem more willing, you can ask to come talk about it with them now.

The smart way to ask you ex to take you back is to let them have control of getting back together.  Your primary task is to apologize and ask.  Then let them have the space to control the reconnecting at their own pace.  You can get a complete system for Get Your Ex Back In Hours here.

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Get Ex Back With No Begging
Friday, May 29th, 2009 • admin

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Breaking up is hard to do.  We often feel terribly sad and lonely and the absence makes our heart grow fonder.  It is normal to feel this way, but it can cause us to make mistakes when it comes to getting our ex back.  One mistake is to beg and plead with them to take us back.  You can learn more about getting your love back here.

You hopefully suspect begging doesn’t work.  One issue with pleading piteously is that it doesn’t change their negative feelings about you.  It may reinforce them.  You need to understand the emotional logic that if your ex dumped you, their heart has more negative feelings for you now than positive ones.

Begging doesn’t do anything to change the negative feelings that have built up in their heart.  And, it can make you seem pathetic and desperate not in a good way.

What you should do instead of begging is to have a plan that won’t make you look weak and pitiable.  Your plan needs to have part that helps your ex to release and let go of the bad feelings they have about you or what you did that are keeping you apart.

It depends on why your ex left you, but there are several ways to get them back fast.  You need to follow a plan that includes steps that help them to let go of the bad emotions they have so they can get back to feelings of intimacy.  Go here for a free course on Loving Relationship Advice.

The first step is to own up or fess up to what you did wrong (if you did nothing wrong you will need to follow a different Immediate Reconnect Strategy).  Don’t make excuses or give lame explanations like “it didn’t mean anything.”

The next very important step is to let them get things off their chest.  Let them vent.  Ask them how they feel about whatever happened then LISTEN.  Listening to their feelings is what helps them to let go of their negativity.

There’s much more to all of this.  But just following these first two steps will get you a lot closer to getting your ex back than begging will.  You can get a complete system about Get Ex Back here.

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Making Up With Ex After Infidelity
Monday, May 18th, 2009 • admin

Cheating is, of course, one of the biggest reasons that relationships break up.  When cheating has occurred, the other person believes “I can’t ever trust him or her again.”

That is a common refrain when cheating occurs.  Trust is essential to close, intimate, real love.  When it is broken, we feel like there is no hope for getting it back.  Even if we loved much about our mate, if they cheated on us, we don’t see how we could ever be happy again with them, how could we trust them after such a sense of betrayal.  You can learn more about getting your ex back after infidelity here.

For this reason trust is one of the largest problems in break ups.  Your ex is wondering if they can ever truly trust you not to cheat on them again.  Why get back together if there is just going to be more cheating?  So when break ups happen due to cheating, on of the big issue on your ex’s mind is

Can I ever feel that I can trust you after this?

I mean, if they rejected you because of some problem behavior, like cheating, or fighting, or not communicating with them, then they need to know BEFORE they let you come back that you wont keep doing the thing they left you about.

The emotion of broken trust/betrayal is one of the toughest feelings for an ex lover to get over.  We all believe that trust takes a long time to build.  So when it’s broken, we usually believe it is unfixable, correct?

You must understand the trust issue to see how you can get back together with your ex.  If you can’t deal with the feelings of betrayal and broken trust and the complete emotional distance that it causes, you won’t be able to get back together.  And, if you do somehow luck out and they give you another chance, it won’t last, because without trust there can’t be the feeling of closeness and intimacy we all really want.

So how can you deal with and repair trust issues?  This is a large subject, but one thing that is easy to see is that in most break ups, we all try to avoid blame.  So we tend to try to lay the blame elsewhere.  We say things like “I cheated because I drank too much!”  Or, “I cheated because you were cold and distant!”  The natural way we react when big issues like cheating come up is to try to avoid the blame. 

Give those excuses to your ex and shell think you’re a weak idiot.  She may take you back, but it wont last, there will be real distance, because those excuses don’t allow her to trust you.  What if you get drunk again?  What if she is cold to you a month from now?  What if a pretty skirt tempts you tomorrow when you’re walking down the street? So one of the first powerful things you can do is accept blame.  Take full responsibility.  Don’t offer weak or lame excuses.  You can learn a full system for resolving relationship conflict here.

Instead of weak excuses, you can say something like “I know I broke your trust in me, and I’m so sorry that I did this and made you feel so hurt…”

That is a powerful start to repairing the trust.  If you got cheated on hearing that can help you to begin to deal with the infidelity.  Its like when you have kids and they screw up and you catch them and they try to lie or blame someone else it makes you much angrier.  But if they own up to it you can forgive them much more easily.

There are many other steps that need to be followed before you can truly begin to repair the trust, but this is a very big initial step!  Go here for a free course on Get Relationship Advice.

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Get Your Ex Back If You’ve Been Too Controlling
Saturday, May 16th, 2009 • admin

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Were you too controlling in your relationship?  Did he/she kick you out because you smothered them, were too bossy and demanding?  Did you have to know where they were at all times and try to make them spend their free time with you?  Were you too much in control?  You can learn more about making up with your ex boyfriend here.

Doing these kinds of things should cause a healthy person like your ex to hit the eject button on your relationship.  After a short while controlling behaviors smother your mate and they lose their interest in being with you quickly.

Now you want to get your ex back in your life hopefully without the whole controlling thing.   What, if anything, can you do to get them back?

The answer is that it depends on how controlling you were in your relationship with your ex.  You may have caused too much hurt and rejection from your ex.  You may even need some relationship coaching before you get back into a love situation with anyone.  Love and power over another are not the same thing, and mixing them up can kill the intimacy in a relationship.

You may, however, get your ex back if you didn’t cause irreparable harm.  And that begins with seeing that power over and need and dominance are not the same as love and intimacy.  If you see that controlling behaviors like keeping them from friends and making them account for their time away from you is not healthy, that is a good beginning.

The question is, did you learn something from the experience of being dumped by your mate.  If so, that is something that can actually help you get your ex back.  You can get a complete system for Get Ex Back here.

The next step is to have a special 20 minute or so conversation with your mate.  In this conversation you have to accomplish several things.  Acknowledge the damage you caused them, let them vent to you about how you hurt them, and then convince them that you truly have learned from your mistakes and won’t repeat the behavior.  It isn’t easy, but if you can accomplish those things you can make room for your ex to begin considering you in a better light.  We all like to feel we have helped people to learn things in life.

There is much greater detail to these steps than we have room for here.  But learning from your mistakes and convincing them of some of what you’ve learned can go a long way towards getting your ex back, or at least create some room for them to consider trying a date or two with you again.  Go here for a free course on How To Get Relationship Advice.

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Getting Your Ex Back Using Emotional Logic
Friday, May 08th, 2009 • admin

Ok, you’ve fought, argued, broken up, and now you want to get your ex back.  Is there any relationship advice that will work? Learning some more about these topics can help: Get Relationship Advice can help in lots of ways.

During your break up, feelings of anger or hatred or sadness replaced feelings of love and closeness, right?  You started feeling angry or betrayed instead of loving and intimate.  That’s why you fought and had a break up.  This happens every day all over the world.

But after a short while you started to have feelings of regret and you began to miss those feelings of softness and closeness you had with your mate.  What is happening is that your hurt and bad feelings are changing.  This is an important thing to note about emotions.  Angry, hurt feelings aren’t set in stone.  Feelings change.

You know this from your own life.  You’ve been sad about some things and the sadness goes away after a while, doesn’t it?  You get really angry as somebody, yet even a day later you aren’t as mad.  That’s how emotions work.  They change.  Good ones, bad ones, they will shift.  This is useful Emotional Logic to pay attention to.  Emotions shift, they change all the time for all of us.

You know this first hand.  While you were breaking up with your ex, you were angry or very hurt and sad.  Now, those feelings are being replaced, shifting back to desire and longing for the closeness and connection you had with your mate.  Now you want to give it another go.  Your feelings have shifted.  It seems obvious, but the point is important:  feelings change.

But while feelings change, some emotions can get stuck.  The can last a lot longer, can’t they?  If, for example, you cheated on your ex, this can bring up feelings of betrayal and shame.  These are very difficult emotions to process, and you ex may still be very stuck with them.  They aren’t shifting or changing very much at all!

So how can you use something like Emotional Logic to help get back with your ex?  Simple.  You can help them to vent, to get those bad feelings “off their chest.”  Help them to get them out.  So, when you talk to them, ask how they are feeling about what you did or the break up.  Then try to be quiet and give them time to form up their emotions into words and “vent” them.  Listening is an important step in or to Making Up In Hours.

Don’t argue.  Don’t defend yourself.  That just creates more argument.  Instead, make them feel heard and understood.  Ten minutes of venting can really help their negative feelings get released.   Letting your ex vent all over you a time or two after a break up can help them to let go of anger and move back towards more kindly feelings towards you.

There is a lot more to this, but helping your ex to vent their negative feelings is an important step to getting them back in your life.  Emotions change, and you want to help your ex through the process of changing their bad feelings for you into more intimate ones.

You can get a free course here about the specific steps to making up with your ex

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